Monday, April 30, 2012

Core Values


I just returned from HDI's 2012 Annual Convention, held again at Rosen Shingle Creek in Orlando, Florida.  The greatest values that conferences like this provide me are the opportunity to reconnect with friends from afar; a renewed sense of direction; and of course, meeting new people and gaining new perspectives.

One thing that stuck out this year was...  getting back to basics and a session that highlighted, what I refer to as, core values.  Getting back to basics is certainly not anything new.  I used in coaching little league baseball, street hockey and at work...  just get back to the basics.  Getting back to basics is easy, especially when you exercise a set of core values to work or play by.  Several years ago, I assembled a set of core values I expected my staff to work and live by.  I hope not only to share them with you here, but hope you take them, tweak them for your own situation and share them with others.  I think the world we live, work and play in would be a better place if we did.


Our Core Values
Our philosophy is based on how we react to the winds that blow upon us…
and then upon setting the sail to better thinking


Work Passionately
We must understand and believe work is a calling. You must use the unique gifts and talents you were given and have obtained so that they are to be used to their fullest extent possible. Our goal is to align people with positions where they are qualified and where they can use their strengths with passion. We will make changes as often as necessary to match skills with needs. Other than the formal annual performance ratings, our work is measured by two things:
  • Motives: "Whatever you do, do your work heartily as if it is for those which we care and love for most." By believing our attitude is to be one of serving the one we care about most through serving our customers, our coworkers, and our management. This means the mere outward appearance of service is not enough. We are to do our best no matter who is looking on.
  • Quality: "Do you see a man skilled in his work? He will stand before kings; he will not stand before obscure men." We believe the quality of our work matters, not merely our attitude. We are to create things of the same high quality as any master craftsman would.
Right motives and the quality of our work are intertwined, so that it is impossible to truly have one without the other.


Practice Good Stewardship
We are entrusted with a stewardship responsibility to use our resources well. We are faithful and diligent to increase the value of management's investment in us and return great value for what they put in.  Customers and coworkers have also trusted us with their success and growth, and we shall go out of our way to exceed the expectations they have for us. In exchange for our efforts, we are given the reward of further responsibility and growth.

Practice Humility
We are a group of people with very diverse talents, and we all have limitations that we can't overcome without help. We all understand we need each others' help in order to be successful. None of us is self-sufficient. We owe even our personal successes to the actions of others, whether it is a customer willing to wait, a manager willing to hire, or a skill we have been given. This eliminates arrogance and gives us a right understanding of our strengths and weaknesses.

Exercise Self-Control
We have the ability to control our actions. We use discretion in determining what our options are and wisdom in choosing the right words or actions. We choose our words and our actions carefully as people of deep personal character.

Accept Responsibility
We accept criticism graciously as a means of growth. When the problem is our fault, we admit it and roll up our sleeves to make things right. Many problems are not our fault, but determining blame doesn't help us fix the problem. We take personal responsibility even if we didn't cause the problem because it is more important to fix the problem than it is to determine who to blame.

Acknowledge the Contribution of Others
Our successes are the last leg in a relay race involving many people within our workplace. When we succeed, we make sure to acknowledge the people and events that contributed to our success. We share the podium because we would not have succeeded without others.

Treat Each Person with Respect
Each person, whether a customer or coworker, deserves to be treated as a person, not merely an object. We don't use people. We don't manipulate people in order to get things we want. We treat people as having inherent worth and dignity, whether they are in the same position as we are or not, and whether they are a new person with entry level skills or the person leading our division. We use our strengths as a means of serving others, not as an excuse for disrespect.

Work as a Team
Our customers don't know who is individually responsible when something goes right or goes wrong. The contribution of each person is required in order to benefit our customers and succeed as an organization.  Each person's work is only as good as its contribution to the whole. We have to work as a team to succeed.  Responding to or taking calls for help from our customers is each persons paramount responsibility, regardless of position.

Uphold Management & Leadership
Managers are to set an example for others by upholding the core values. They are also to serve others by helping them to succeed, both personally and organizationally. Because of this, we take managers seriously, both in whom we choose and in the respect we show toward to them. Our managers are to be respected for the position of responsibility they hold. We don't try to go around our managers or team leaders, or undermine them in order to get things done the way we want. We uphold the structures of accountability and confidentiality that ensure our concerns are heard without undermining our managers' authority.  Management is a position some hold.  Leadership is an action all can take.

Act with Integrity
We have been chosen for our positions because of our integrity as well as our skills and abilities. We take the trust we have been given seriously and ensure that personal information stays personal and confidential company data stays confidential. This holds true whether we are dealing with our co-workers, our customers, our partners, or others.

Benefit the Customer
We are here to serve our customers, not the other way around. It's our job to understand our customers' needs and help them reach their goals. The answer is not always "no". Look for possibilities and opportunities to meet customers needs while also meeting the directives and mandates.  Find alternatives.

Tell the Truth
Nothing we could gain is worth sacrificing our honesty. We speak only the truth regardless of whom we are talking to, what is at stake, or where the conversation takes place.

Speak the Truth with Love & Compassion
We go directly to the person and speak honestly and openly about what we think, where we disagree, and areas where each other could grow. We don't talk behind someone's back. However, it is not enough simply to speak the truth. We speak the truth with an aim toward the person's benefit, both their personal benefit and their benefit to the company. Speak with compassion.

Help Others Accomplish Their Goals
We are privileged that our fellow employees have chosen to work within this division to help us reach our objectives. We want to return the favor by having the same ambition for others' goals as we do for our own. We do this through getting to know each person as an individual with distinct objectives, helping directly where we can, and getting others the resources, training, and development they need. We want our fellow employees to get closer to their goals both at work, in their lives and careers.


Please feel free to share, modify and use where you work.  Post a comment to let us know what you changed to make it work for you. 

Wednesday, April 18, 2012

It's time to be happy


This is not original, it was sent to me by a friend on Facebook...  I share it as an unknown, but wise persons work.  Not only do I wish all of you the ability to apply this characteristics to your life...  I want them for me even more.
We hold on to so many things that cause us a great deal of pain, stress and suffering – and instead of letting them all go, instead of allowing ourselves to be stress free and happy – we cling on to them. Not anymore. Starting today we will give up on all those things that no longer serve us, and we will embrace change. Ready? Here we go, one step at a time:
1. Give up your need to always be rightThere are so many of us who can’t stand the idea of being wrong – wanting to always be right – even at the risk of ending great relationships or causing a great deal of stress and pain, for us and for others. It’s just not worth it. Whenever you feel the ‘urgent’ need to jump into a fight over who is right and who is wrong, ask yourself this question: “Would I rather be right, or would I rather be kind? Wayne Dyer. What difference will that make? Is your ego really that big?

2. Give up your need for control
Be willing to give up your need to always control everything that happens to you and around you – situations, events, people, etc. Whether they are loved ones, coworkers, or just strangers you meet on the street – just allow them to be. Allow everything and everyone to be just as they are and you will see how much better will that make you feel.
By letting it go it all gets done. The world is won by those who let it go. But when you try and try. The world is beyond winning. Lao Tzu
3. Give up on blameGive up on your need to blame others for what you have or don’t have, for what you feel or don’t feel. Stop giving your powers away and start taking responsibility for your life.
4. Give up your self-defeating self-talk. Oh my. How many people are hurting themselves because of their negative, polluted and repetitive self-defeating mindset? Don’t believe everything that your mind is telling you – especially if it’s negative and self-defeating. You are better than that.
The mind is a superb instrument if used rightly. Used wrongly, however, it becomes very destructive.” Eckhart Tolle
5. Give up your limiting beliefs about what you can or cannot do, about what is possible or impossible. From now on, you are no longer going to allow your limiting beliefs to keep you stuck in the wrong place. Spread your wings and fly!
A belief is not an idea held by the mind, it is an idea that holds the mind Elly Roselle
7. Give up the luxury of criticismGive up your need to criticize things, events or people that are different than you. We are all different, yet we are all the same. We all want to be happy, we all want to love and be loved and we all want to be understood. We all want something, and something is wished by us all.
8. Give up your need to impress othersStop trying so hard to be something that you’re not just to make others like you. It doesn’t work this way. The moment you stop trying so hard to be something that you’re not, the moment you take of all your masks, the moment you accept and embrace the real you, you will find people will be drawn to you, effortlessly.
9. Give up your resistance to changeChange is good. Change will help you move from A to B. Change will help you make improvements in your life and also the lives of those around you. Follow your bliss, embrace change – don’t resist it.
Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors for you where there were only walls” 
Joseph Campbell
10. Give up labelsStop labeling those things, people or events that you don’t understand as being weird or different and try opening your mind, little by little. Minds only work when open. 
The highest form of ignorance is when you reject something you don’t know anything about. Wayne Dyer
11. Give up on your fearsFear is just an illusion, it doesn’t exist – you created it. It’s all in your mind. Correct the inside and the outside will fall into place.
The only thing we have to fear, is fear itself. Franklin D. Roosevelt

12. Give up your excusesSend them packing and tell them they’re fired. You no longer need them. A lot of times we limit ourselves because of the many excuses we use. Instead of growing and working on improving ourselves and our lives, we get stuck, lying to ourselves, using all kind of excuses – excuses that 99.9% of the time are not even real.
13. Give up the pastI know, I know. It’s hard. Especially when the past looks so much better than the present and the future looks so frightening, but you have to take into consideration the fact that the present moment is all you have and all you will ever have. The past you are now longing for – the past that you are now dreaming about – was ignored by you when it was present. Stop deluding yourself. Be present in everything you do and enjoy life. After all life is a journey not a destination. Have a clear vision for the future, prepare yourself, but always be present in the now.
14. Give up attachmentThis is a concept that, for most of us is so hard to grasp and I have to tell you that it was for me too, (it still is) but it’s not something impossible. You get better and better at with time and practice. The moment you detach yourself from all things, (and that doesn’t mean you give up your love for them – because love and attachment have nothing to do with one another,  attachment comes from a place of fear, while love… well, real love is pure, kind, and self less, where there is love there can’t be fear, and because of that, attachment and love cannot coexist) you become so peaceful, so tolerant, so kind, and so serene. You will get to a place where you will be able to understand all things without even trying. A state beyond words.
15. Give up living your life to other people’s expectations. Way too many people are living a life that is not theirs to live. They live their lives according to what others think is best for them, they live their lives according to what their parents think is best for them, to what their friends, their enemies and their teachers, their government and the media think is best for them. They ignore their inner voice, that inner calling. They are so busy with pleasing everybody, with living up to other people’s expectations, that they lose control over their lives. They forget what makes them happy, what they want, what they need….and eventually they forget about themselves.  You have one life – this one right now – you must live it, own it, and especially don’t let other people’s opinions distract you from your path.
16. Give up complainingGive up your constant need to complain about those many, many, maaany things – people, situations, events that make you unhappy, sad and depressed. Nobody can make you unhappy, no situation can make you sad or miserable unless you allow it to. It’s not the situation that triggers those feelings in you, but how you choose to look at it. Never underestimate the power of positive thinking.

Most importantly, Remember Rule #6 (note, there is no #6 above, you might have to look this up in the Ben Zandar's The Art of Possibility, one of my favorite books).

Saturday, April 14, 2012

I'd Rather See this on a Street Corner...

Rather than the rift raft that begs for money, At least I 'd know it was for real....

Tyler Greeley has again been named to the Dean's List

BELCHERTOWN, Mass. – Tyler Greeley of Belchertown has again been named to the Dean's List at the Savannah College of Art and Design for fall quarter 2011. Full-time undergraduate students who earn a grade point average of 3.5 or above for the quarter receive recognition on the Dean's List.  Tyler has maintained a perfect 4.0 while at SCAD.

The Savannah College of Art and Design is a private, nonprofit, accredited institution conferring bachelor's and master's degrees at distinctive locations and online to prepare talented students for professional careers. SCAD offers degrees in more than 40 areas of study, as well as minors in nearly 60 disciplines in Savannah and Atlanta, Georgia; in Hong Kong; in Lacoste, France; and online through SCAD eLearning.

Tyler is an Animation major, minoring in Character Direction.  One day Tyler would like to direct an animated production at Pixar, or a similar company.  Tyler also plans to spent at least one semester at the SCAD Hong Kong campus.

SCAD has more than 20,000 alumni and offers an exceptional education and unparalleled career preparation. The diverse student body, consisting of more than 11,000 students, comes from all 50 United States and more than 100 countries worldwide. Each student is nurtured and motivated by a faculty of more than 700 professors with extraordinary academic credentials and valuable professional experience. These professors emphasize learning through individual attention in an inspiring university environment. SCAD's innovative curriculum is enhanced by advanced, professional-level technology, equipment and learning resources and has garnered acclaim from respected organizations and publications, including 3D World, American Institute of Architects, BusinessWeek, DesignIntelligence, U.S. News & World Report and the Los Angeles Times.

Good Stories, Real or Not

There world needs more feel good stories...  this is mine for the day, and I don't care if it is real or make believe...  feel good is feel good... the story is inspiration to be good and do good.


Our 14-year-old dog Abbey died last month. The day after she passed away my 4-year-old daughter Meredith was crying and talking about how much she missed Abbey. She asked if we could write a letter to God so that when Abbey got to heaven, God would recognize her. I told her that I thought we could so, and she dictated these words:

Dear God,

Will you please take care of my dog? She died yesterday and is with you in heaven. I miss her very much. I am happy that you let me have her as my dog even though she got sick.
I hope you will play with her. She likes to swim and play with balls. I am sending a picture of her so when you see her you will know that she is my dog. I really miss her.

Love, Meredith


We put the letter in an envelope with a picture of Abbey and Meredith and addressed it to God/Heaven. We put our return address on it. Then Meredith pasted several stamps on the front of the envelope because she said it would take lots of stamps to get the letter all the way to heaven. That afternoon she dropped it into the letter box at the post office. A few days later, she asked if God had gotten the letter yet. I told her that I thought He had.
Yesterday, there was a package wrapped in gold paper on our front porch addressed, 'To Meredith' in an unfamiliar hand. Meredith opened it. Inside was a book by Mr. Rogers called, 'When a Pet Dies.' Taped to the inside front cover was the letter we had written to God in its opened envelope. On the opposite page was the picture of Abbey & Meredith and this note:


Dear Meredith,

Abbey arrived safely in heaven. Having the picture was a big help and I recognized her right away.
Abbey isn't sick anymore. Her spirit is here with me just like it stays in your heart. Abbey loved being your dog. Since we don't need our bodies in heaven, I don't have any pockets to keep your picture in so I am sending it back to you in this little book for you to keep and have something to remember Abbey by.
Thank you for the beautiful letter and thank your mother for helping you write it and sending it to me. What a wonderful mother you have. I picked her especially for you. I send my blessings every day and remember that I love you very much. By the way, I'm easy to find. I am wherever there is love.

Love, God